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What You're Getting More Of What You DON'T Want...

Whatever you focus on will grow. That's what he said. Who's 'she?' Mother Nature. And Mother Nature is undefeated. So... 

Here is a screenshot of the most viewed articles on the nytimes.com website from this past Friday:

Let's just take the top three things. What do the readers of one of the most well respected newspapers in the country give their attention to?

1. What Donald Trump said

2. What Donald Trump said

3. Mac N' Cheese

And there you have it. The people that read the NY Times (not the Enquirer or Hustler or TMZ) THE NY TIMES READERS give their attention to Donald Trump and Mac N' Cheese. 

Mother of God help us all. Here's a law of nature that you may or may not be aware of:

Whatever you focus on will grow. 

And whether you want more of something or less of something, if you focus on it, it will grow. This a law of nature and why the guy who sits in the Oval Office as leader of the wealthiest country in the world with the most powerful military in the planet's history is where he is. No other reason than that. The media, you and I continue to give this guy more attention than anything else. With the chemicals in our Mac N' Cheese coming in a close second. But for those of you that know me, you know I'm a positive cat so let's flip the script on this...

Why You're Not Getting What You Want

Last week we I talked about how to get more of what you want. If you haven't read that post you can HERE. This week it's how NOT to get more of what you DON'T want. It's so simple - whatever you focus on you'll move towards. 

Want less money? Focus on what you don't have. 

Want to keep gaining weight? Focus on the reasons why it's hard to eat healthy.

Want to look unattractive on-camera? Focus on what you don't like about yourself. 

Want Donald Trump for a second term? Keep giving him your attention. 

It's really all that simple. 

Why The Camera Tells Us A LOT

I love the camera. I love being behind it and in front of it. (Also what she said). But seriously - why do I love the camera? Because it's an amplifier and accelerator. 

It's can amplify all that's good (and bad). It can accelerate the know, like and trust factor. 

Depending upon where your focus is when that camera is pointed at you - you're going to look very attractive or self-conscious (and not attractive at all). Self-Conscious people are boring people. But if you get the attention off of yourself and focus on who you want to reach beyond the camera you're going to start to be magnetic, attractive and just plain hot. It's why I coach all of my clients towards this and why you'll never see a photo of mine where the subject doesn't look certain and with an outward focus. 

On- Camera Application

Make a list of the things you love about yourself. Then make a list of the things you hate about yourself. Just physically. Then, tape the things you love to the mirror and tear up or burn the other list. It's of no use to you. The next time you're on-camera focus on all that you love about yourself and pay no mind to that which you don't like. It's ok to do this in every day life too. It's actually more than ok - I would say I highly recommend it. 

Oh, and if you don't want Mr. Trump for a second term, it's time to start focusing on who you would want and start giving that person your attention.