How To Accept Where You Are Right Now But Strive For Something More?
This is a topic that's resonated with me for years. How can I be happy with where I'm at but stay motivated to keep getting better in all facets of life?
You're Only Ever Doing Two Things
Growing or dying. That's it. I know you know this. But do you know it? How do you know if you know it? You're doing it. Because if you're not doing it, you don't know it. If you smoke and you say you know smoking is terrible for you and you should quit and you're still smoking - YOU DON'T KNOW YOU SHOULD QUIT SMOKING! Because knowing on an intellectual level is utterly useless. Meaningless and near worthless. Here's the first thing I want to invite you to do:
1. Take a very honest look at your life.
2. Identify what actions you consistently take
3. Embrace and admit this is what you know. This is all of what you know. And accept that. Don't judge it. Accept it.
What does your life look like? What do you really know? Do you know about money? Health? Relationships? All of the above?
An example is you're eating healthy and exercising regularly, you know about health and fitness. If you're don't doing those two things, you don't know a damn thing about health and fitness.
I challenge you to make the measure for that which you 'know' something the amount of action you're taking and NOT what you know intellectually. This is the first step towards accepting where you're really at and moving towards where you want to go. Now here's the magic bullet:
The Magical Practice of Gratitude
When I was 19 years old I crashed my car. I drove it into parked Cadillac sent that 20 feet into someone's front lawn, flipped over hit another car upside down, slid 100 feet and spun around 3 times (all while upside down). I got out of that car and walked away without a scratch. I won't bore you with all the other details but I'll say this:
The feeling I felt that day was the most powerful feeling I've ever felt in my life. That of intense gratitude. The feeling that as long as I was alive and whole anything was possible and I had nothing to worry about. I was just happy to be alive. It was from that state that I knew I could do almost anything.
Knowing what I know now that when I got in that car that night would I still get in knowing my life would be at risk? Yes I would. Why? Because the lesson I learned that night was worth risking my life for.
Here's the second thing you can do to accept where you're at and strive towards the future:
Start a daily practice of gratitude.
"Oh, Michael I know about gratitude and gratitude practices. I read a great book on that!."
Me: "Do you practice gratitude every morning for 10 minutes?"
Me: "THEN YOU DON'T KNOW ABOUT A GRATITUDE PRACTICE!!!!!"
I don't mean to yell but this is important.
How do you practice gratitude? Easy. Use this fill in the blank:
I get to _________________ today!
Whatever it is.
I get to walk today. I get to see today. I get to hang out with my friends today. I get to make money today. I get to see so and so today. I get to... I get to...
Do this until you FEEL it. Ya gotta feel it. If you don't feel it, you're not doing it right (that's what she said)
Now there's a third thing you can do and it deals with striving to get more in your life. More of whatever you want. But I only want to give it to you if you want it. If you want to hear about it, click the click below. If not, go practice some gratitude today and make your life magnificent. Oh P.S.....
If you practice gratitude before you step in front of the camera, I guarantee that you'll be 10X more attractive then if you didn't. I coach all of my clients to this in one way or the other.